Survey: When deciding to marry…
When considering a marital partner – which of the following do you consider as being important…
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December 27th, 2007 at 1:50 am
Compatibility in Heritage, culture, common festivals, language, Dharma, etc –> results into a harmonious marriage. Also both inlaws mutually visit the newly married couple and marriage gets consolidated. THERE ARE SOME 36 factors, traditionally considered. Some “Compatibility factors” and some “Complimentary factors” which are given consideration before the wedding is finalized.
Madhusudan Uvach
Center for Indic Studies. NO Dartmouth, USA
December 27th, 2007 at 12:04 pm
just because a white person goes out with a white person, it does not necessarily make him/her racist vice versa.
I think the bottom line is that people look for someone who is like minded, with the same kind of thoughts/ lifestyle and upbringing as them. Basically someone with whom they share a lot in common.
December 28th, 2007 at 7:09 am
People always tend to confuse the three things which are Race, Culture and Religion. Although somehow always linked they are NOT the same thing!
Race shouldn’t ever be an issue, seriously how can you decide someone isn’t marriage material by the colour of their skin or the shape of their eyes ?!
Although I’ll admit issues related to culture such as language need to be taken seriously (otherwise how are you going to communicate??). Also maybe diet and dress?! I know they can come under religion as well.
But for me religion is the biggie. I remember at a university Hindu society stall a member who signed up asked if she could have a bag that didn’t have a Hindu symbol on it so she could hide the books on Hinduism she had bought, when I asked her why. She said even though her mum is Hindu, her dad is Muslim and doesn’t look too favorably on Hinduism. A colleague of my mum admitted that she had a made a mistake with her inter-religious marriage and has been suffering for it since.
Not to say that inter-religious marriages are doomed to fail or should be banned, just wish people would think of the repercussions before they go through with it. All they have to do is ask themselves “Just how much does my partner repsect my religion (Hinduism)?”
December 28th, 2007 at 8:37 pm
It’ll be interesting to see the results of this survey. Personally I think that to most people reading this website, religion and probably race will be quite impt. To me they are both quite important…
Anyway - these are mine:
1) Race
b) Partly
2) Caste (e.g. Patel, Khatri etc)
c) Not at all
3) Language/Region (Punjabi, Tamil etc)
c) Not at all
4) Country of origin
b) Partly
5) Religion
a) Strongly
December 28th, 2007 at 8:52 pm
Since we’re sharing what we preferred…
1)Race
c)Not At All
2)Caste
c)Not At All
3)Language/Region
c)Not At All
4)Country Of Origin
b)Partly
5)Religion
a)Strongly
January 7th, 2008 at 6:26 pm
An interesting survey and an interesting topic. I have to confess that this is an issue on which both intellectually and emotionally, I have very mixed thoughts and feelings. Many thanks for those who have shared their own preferences; if I may, I would be most interested to hear from ‘Dangerous’ in particular, as well as any others who may wish to share, why they have voted as they have.
January 24th, 2008 at 6:38 am
None of these really matters, if you are lucky to have a partner who is tolerant and receptive of new ideas.
February 1st, 2008 at 9:50 pm
Marriage is much more complex than these five criteria to fulfill the condition. However, it gives a general overview. Since I voted in the survey, I am sharing my choices (they are honest answers).
1) Race
b) Partly
2) Caste (e.g. Patel, Khatri etc)
c) Not at all
3) Language/Region (Punjabi, Tamil etc)
c) Not at all
4) Country of origin
b) Not at all
5) Religion
a) Strongly
February 4th, 2008 at 5:39 am
After being married to an Orthodox Christian of European origin, who in practice today is more Hindu than myself, I have to say Race and Religion ( before marriage) do not matter either.
March 3rd, 2008 at 9:00 pm
Guys lets get one thing straight, everyone hates Hindus, it doesnt matter who, they all hate us. Its in their religion, i.e. Christianity and Islam to hate all who believe differently. I dont care much for race; culture and language is more important. However when we see a common culture that spans across a majority of people who happen to be white skin, we use the issue of race/skin colour simply because of its association to that culture. A word of advice, dont ever in your right mind ever consider marrying someone who belongs to a faith whose scriptures condemn other faiths. With that in mind I guess I wouldnt mind marrying a Pagan as they are essentially tolerant people who woudlnt mind you worshipping your own Gods/Goddesses!
-Muski